"No-Show" Charge For Missing A Birthday Party Tacky Or Justified? You Decide!

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Here is a story most of you are probably familiar with. Kid gets invited to a classmate's birthday party. Parents respond with a resounding yes, but later realize they have a conflict and decide it's okay to skip the party without informing the host. End of story right? No, says this British mother who wants the errant party to pay for the cost incurred.

The chain of events that has led to this unusual request, which has made international headlines, unfolded in Cornwall, U.K., a few days before Christmas. Five-year-old Alex Nash was all set to go to classmate Charlie Lawrence's slide and ride birthday party at the Plymouth Ski Slope and Snowboard Center. However on the day of the event, his parents Derek and Tanya realized that Alex and his sister were scheduled to meet their grandparents and decided the boy would have to skip the party. While they thought about calling Charlie's mother, Julie, neither could locate her number. Besides, they really did not believe Julie would mind.

So you can only imagine their surprise when Alex returned from school on January 15th, with a brown envelope that contained an invoice for £15.95 (about $25 USD). Sent by Julie, it was the cost she incurred per child for the prepaid event that included half an hour on a snow tubing run, three toboggan rides, a hot meal, ice cream and balloons. Since Julie had to pay regardless of whether Alex showed up or not, she believed it was only fair that Derek and Tanya foot the bill.

Needless to say, Alex's parents are furious - however they say it's not because Julie is asking them to pay, but because of the way she did it. They assert that if she had called them, they would have happily reimbursed her the money. Julie on the other hand, insists that the Nash's should have let her know the minute they realized Alex was not going to make it and says that her phone number was clearly written on the party invite. What made her even more upset is that she had told all the parents about the prepayment requirement and asked them to confirm attendance, just a few days prior to the party.

As of now, the two are at a stalemate. Tanya and Derek are adamant that they will not play, while Julie is threatening to take them to court. Given the small amount involved, this feud is clearly not about the money but about etiquette. Julie is upset because Alex's parents did not have the courtesy to call her despite knowing that she would be wasting money, while Tanya and Derek are furious at the way she handled the request.

As is always the case with such debates there are proponents for both sides. Some believe that the no-show should be taken in stride and that Julie should just let it pass. Others think that people should display common courtesy even if the issue at stake is as trivial as a kid's birthday party. What do you think?

Resources: metro.co.uk, dailymail.co.uk

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  • noiwantthecandy
    noiwantthecandyover 1 year
    pay the money back and say no, or go to the party later!
    • gold3nglare
      gold3nglareover 1 year
      That is so uneccerary
      • lunar3clipse
        lunar3clipseover 1 year
        It really isn't cool to do that. The kid might think you don't wanna go!
        • graycat
          graycatalmost 2 years
          Wow
          • animereina2021
            animereina2021almost 2 years
            I think that is just crazy!
            • animereina2021
              animereina2021almost 2 years
              I kind of agree with Julie because they should've called her when they had a change of schedule. But I also agree with Derek and Tanya because when you have a change of plans, you shouldn't be charged for missing out on the party. The way Julie acted about it was kind of rude.
            • owlfluff
              owlfluffalmost 3 years
              GIANT DEBATE! What do you think? Julie or Derek and Tanya? I think Julie.
              • BabyArialmost 3 years
                I think Julie is right to have wanted money back, but it was very rude the way she did it.
                • Yeah right.about 3 years
                  Um... I don't think so!!!!! Like seriously??? No way!!! Like I get that the kid missed the birthday party but he had a good reason. So it totally unfair that he has to pay money for it. PLUS EVERYBODY MAKES MISTAKES!!!!!!! #totally annoyed.
                  • tsmdakotaz
                    tsmdakotazover 3 years
                    wow